Life is exploration and innovation

Kum Nye encourages exploration and innovation

and

Kum Nye is Life

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
The Joy of Being

therefore, Life encourages exploration and innovation.

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Happy birthday, Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche!

October 10th is the day that Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche’s birthday is usually celebrated. This year he is having his 81st birthday.

Thank you for all that you have done to bring more peace, harmony, wisdom ,and knowledge into the world. It is truly amazing what you have accomplished in the 47 years you have been in the US, and even before that.

Your integrity in disseminating the teachings, and your efforts to discover how the Dharma can be appropriately shared here in the US are very much appreciated.

May the work that you have done laying the foundation be the rich soil in which the roots of an inspiring 21st Century Buddhism will flourish.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche

Rinpoche sitting among Tibetan texts (Nyingma Trust website)

Mind becomes pristine and clear

When we appreciate mind as the architect of our reality, the source of our greatest joys and our most profound sorrows, we perceive new possibilities for freeing the mind from problems and encouraging it to reflect more beauty and joy into our lives.

Meditation based on this understanding becomes a gentle form of self-healing that relaxes mind’s focus on thoughts and allows it to rest content in the center of our being.

It takes only a few minutes to focus body, mind, and senses by practicing Kum Nye, yoga, Tai Chi, or other kinds of slow, simple movement exercises. Even fifteen minutes to half an hour of sitting practice several times a day can relax body and mind, while memories, tensions, thoughts, and hidden blockages gradually melt away.

Mind becomes pristine and clear, more friendly and accommodating. Peaceful, loving feelings arise, uplifting the spirit and warming the heart. These feelings can be carried into daily life and recalled in difficult times, gentling emotional reactions and slowing the momentum of karma.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Teachings from the Heart

On teachers who are not authentic

A link to a recently updated post on different blog with detail about Mr Maitland’s sexual harassment. Over 500 people have viewed that post; it might be helpful to read the comments from people who had similar experiences with Mr. Maitland.
Also, a recent comment from Nov 22, 2016 by a long-time member of the TNMC community:
…I just want to acknowledge what you said as true. As a long term member of the organization I was and am truly shamed with this situation. A classical denial reaction is not what I would expect from us, or from any Buddhist practitioner, not for that extended period of time anyhow. I am truly sorry for your pain
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Many people find themselves drawn to Arnaud Maitland and his teaching; he appears to be very charismatic.  But you only have to look a little beyond his surface charm to see that he holds none of the qualities of an authentic teacher in the Buddhist tradition.
The Dharma book Path of Heroes lists what the characteristics are of a qualified teacher (there is a similar discussion in Words of My Perfect Teacher, on examining a spiritual friend):
Necessary characteristics of the Spiritual Teacher
* The spiritual teacher must uphold the moral practice of the Bodhisattva
* The spiritual teacher must have learned the innumerable teachings of the collection relating to the Bodhisattva.
* The spiritual teacher must have realization of these teachings.
* The spiritual teacher must have supreme compassion.
* The spiritual teacher must be fearless.
* The spiritual teacher must have patient forbearance.
* The spiritual teacher must have a completely imperturbable mind.
* The spiritual teacher’s actions and words must accord with one another.
There are very few teachers who have these characteristic, and Mr Maitland is not one of them. If you have had any experience with Mr Maitland, his failures to meet the qualifications on this list are obvious. If you have not, then here are some of the ways in which he has behaved in ways that are completely opposite to these requirements.
* The spiritual teacher’s actions and words must accord with one another.
Mr Maitland frequently, with feigned humility, admitted that he does not uphold the teachings, that he is a flawed human being who is not the best example for anyone to follow. He has been ‘practicing’ the Dharma for 40 years, and teaching for nearly that long. And yet he still cannot and does not display the main characteristics of the teachings he professes to love and has dedicated his life to – something is very wrong with that.
Mr Maitland has stated that Kum Nye can be taught separately from the Dharma; that is a convenience that he himself invented, for in the opening of Joy of Being, it specifically states that the knowledge embedded in Kum Nye is why Dharma is a symbol of healing and transformation. Kum Nye and the Dharma are intimately entwined, so if you learn Kum Nye properly, you begin to embody the Dharma as well. Mr Maitland is neither an embodiment of Kum Nye nor the Dharma.
* The spiritual teacher must uphold the moral practice of the Bodhisattva
It has already been discussed on this blog and in other places how Mr Maitland has repeatedly transgressed this by approaching students for inappropriate sexual relationships, sometimes even under the guise of being special Nyingma practices. This is the very worst abuse of spiritual leadership, and Mr Maitland has done this many times over the years that he has been teaching Kum Nye and the Dharma.
* The spiritual teacher must have supreme compassion.
In the years that I studied and worked for Mr Maitland, compassion was rarely mentioned, and even more rarely displayed. Mr Maitland often expressed a withering distain for his students, his colleagues, and even his direct reports, if they displayed any faults or difficulties. He frequently made very derogatory remarks about his long-time students, about the colleagues he had worked with for decades, and even about the volunteers who had sacrificed and made commitments to work for him.
* The spiritual teacher must have patient forbearance and the spiritual teacher must have a completely imperturbable mind
Those who have studied or worked with Mr Maitland for a long time know that he has neither patient forbearance nor an imperturbable mind. During my service with Dharma Publishing, Mr Maitland got very angry on many occasions, once calling a meeting to rally the entire group to condemn one person who made a mistake; on another occasion, enraged with me for some small issue, he actually swore and yelled at me for nearly 45 minutes.
I post this information because if you are new to working with Mr Maitland, or have not worked with him continually over a period of time, you may not be aware of these things, and they are important to know when making a choice about something as important as a spiritual teacher.

You have to ask yourself…

Mr Maitland has been practicing Kum Nye and the Dharma, by his own accounts, for nearly 40 years. You have to ask yourself how, after all of that practice, is it reasonable or possible that he is such a poor practitioner of the Dharma, including that he approaches students for sex, harasses students who do not give him sex or otherwise fail to meet his demands, and how is it he can do his job only adequately. The latest version of the Kum Nye book, published under Mr Maitland’s direction, contains at least one new error (see the last paragraph of the first page of chapter The Inner and Outer Massage of Feeling) that was not there in the previous versions. That is not the first time this has happened. He has published things about Kum Nye that do not reference Tarthang Tulku, the founder of Kum Nye (see the Kum Nye talks series). After being director of Dharma Publishing and an instructor of Kum Nye for so long, how is it possible that these basic mistakes still happen?

How is it possible that he does not embody the teachings, has gotten or remains incompetent, in spite of doing and teaching Kum Nye and working for the Dharma for so long? You have to ask yourself how this is possible, and what it might mean. You also have to ask yourself whether this is how you would like to end up, because if his evolution is an example of what’s possible when you practice Kum Nye and the Dharma for a long time, then is that what you want for yourself? And do you want to be associated with a teacher who behaves as he does and is still, after nearly 40 years, unable to embody the teachings he tries to teach?
The books all say that practicing Kum Nye opens up excellent qualities within us, yet Mr Maitland, as a teacher, does not have these excellent qualities. Nor do any of his long time students. He runs an organization rife with jealousy and competition, and he uses manipulation and fear to motivate the people who work for him and work with him. So it behooves you, before investing time and potentially money, to ask yourself is this what you want to get out of it? Mr Maitland can be very persuasive; but if you pay attention, it is very much like eating fast food, which tastes good when you are eating it, but very shortly afterward, you feel badly; it creates nothing of lasting value, and you have to go back to eat more to feel good again. He himself knows this, and this creates the link that keeps people coming back, not so that he can help them, but so that he can continue to take advantage of them.
If you pay very close attention, you will notice that Mr Maitland’s teachings and interactions are all manipulations based on trying to get money from people and make people feel as if they needed him and his courses. It was the custom at Dharma Publishing for Mr Maitland to come up with a new e-course or webinar to fill a gap in the revenue for that month. His focus was not on what would help people progress in their practice, but on what would raise money. One of the ways he manipulated people was by attempting to get people to feel pity or sympathy for him directly. He would say things to evoke responses of pity and the desire to help this ‘old sweet man’, and, because our cultures have trained us in this way, it works. He takes advantage of that, and as a result, he is able to take advantage of people.
Mr Maitland tries to make people dependent upon him, and there was little evidence that he cared about people and their spiritual development. When I was a volunteer at Dharma Publishing, before every retreat there was a meeting about how can we get more money this year out of the people who attended than the previous year. In addition, Mr Maitland would frequently come back from his teaching trips and say malicious and unkind things about the people and groups that he taught. He would gossip about the people he taught on these trips, sharing private details to entertain and amuse his loyal employees. It was shocking behavior, and always made me feel very uncomfortable.
If you pay attention very closely, he doesn’t ever talk about kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, or equanimity, nor does he practice them. He recently started being ‘generous’, but the ultimate aim of his generosity is a manipulation. The latest Kum Nye teacher training is an example of this – included in the offer is a collection of “free” materials, some of which are eight years old or perhaps more, and are even obsolete in terms of how he even teaches Kum Nye. This is a takeoff of the classic Internet scam of trying to convince people they are getting a lot, when in fact they are getting nothing of real value at all. He has adopted the scam tactics of the Internet to sell the Dharma – see the offering of Training the Mind for Leadership for another example of this. And selling the Dharma is one of the worst things that a teacher can do, according to the teachings.
So you have to ask yourself – do you really want to be a part of that? It says in Ways of Enlightenment that each person has to find his or her own way, by engaging with the teachings directly and personally. This is equally true for Kum Nye, and in fact, Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche wrote the Kum Nye book precisely so each practitioner could engage with it themselves. You would do so much better in your practice to read the book and experiment on your own than to tie yourself to or invest in Mr Maitland’s teachings, given the significant doubt about the efficacy and the ultimate result.

Please read this if you are a current Kum Nye student under Arnaud Maitland

Kum Nye logoIf you are currently a student of Arnaud Maitland or any students of Arnaud Maitland or continue to do retreats, workshops, or webinars with or practice e-KumNye written by Arnaud Maitland, and you subscribe to this blog, I would like to ask you to unsubscribe from this blog. If you currently do not practice Kum Nye at all, then you can ignore this request and continue to enjoy the quotes of Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche. If you would like to read more about Mr Maitland and sexual harassment, read this blog post.

Mr Maitland’s way of teaching Kum Nye is not compatible with the intention and vision of this blog, and as such, it is inappropriate for you to be reading it.

Logo Bowling pins BurgundyIf you have been a student in Mr Maitland’s lineage for a long time, you might ask yourself if you really have benefited from this participation. Are you realizing the promise of being as expressed by Tarthang Tulku in the books Kum Nye Relaxation, The Joy of Being, and Kum Nye Dancing? Do you find that your teacher, Mr Maitland, exhibits the qualities that are expressed by Tartang Tulku RInpoche in these books, after all of the time he has practiced and taught Kum Nye?

logo circles burgundy greenIf you have been associated with Arnaud Maitland for any length of time, you are aware of his erratic behavior. If you feel that this behavior is appropriate given the things that he teaches and the views he espouses, then you should no longer be reading this blog. If you would like to read an example of some of Mr Maitland’s more egregious behavior, please read this blog post for a summary of how he interacted with me when I was a student and employee of his at Dharma Publishing. My experience was not the first time he has done this, and it is unlikely to be the last.

logo spiral burgundy-greenIf Mr Maitland displays such a lack of moral and ethical behavior in this way, in what other ways might he be unethical?  And more importantly, perhaps most importantly, how might his unethical behavior be affecting you, your practice, and your progress?

If you find any of this upsetting or difficult to read, please do not comment or write to me, please just unsubscribe from this blog.

Thank you very much.