Embracing the energies of emotions

Once we realize that energy appears in different ways,
we can embrace the energies of the emotions
and bring them into our meditative state.

We can learn to relax within these energies
when we no longer divide up our experiences into positive and negative.

Then the emotions are welcome,
because we understand that they are teachings;
the emotions themselves can reveal their own meaning,
without our needing to look beyond them.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind


Awareness that protects ourselves and others…

Our responsibility is to maintain a sense of awareness
that can protect both ourselves and others.

If we are not careful, instead of helping,
we may make the emotional imbalance even worse.

Emotions, being in substance pure energy,
tend to `soak up’ any energy that is directed towards them.

It works both ways:
while our own energy may stir up the emotion,
we may also be `infected’ by the negative energy.

The energy seems to intensify itself,
as if it had a life of its own.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind


Handling intense emotions…

Handling intense emotions is not easy;
emotions project a form of energy
which makes it difficult for anyone near
to maintain a balanced perspective.

So before we try to help,
it is important to know how to sustain
a gentle and compassionate attitude.

When people are caught up in emotional turmoil,
they are very sensitive and vulnerable;
they can easily sense underlying emotions
and can also easily be hurt by misunderstandings.

Therefore, when we want to help,
we should be especially mindful
of the energy that we ourselves project.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind

Stand on your own…

Attempting to share our emotional problems
can just create more problems,
for both ourselves and others.

Instead of running to a friend,
try to draw the energy of the problem into your meditation.

Let your mind transmute the negativity into a healthy outlook.

It is important to be able to stand on your own and face your difficulties directly.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind

Play with each happening

We try to conquer our problems.

When we do not react to them,
they lose their substance;
they are only obstacles when we make them so.

When we get caught up in our problems,
we are no longer free to choose how we will respond to them.

But when we stay unconcerned but aware, we can be championship players.

We can play with each happening.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind

Play with situations, respond unexpectedly

This is what I would like you to do.

In the morning when you get up,
consider all the possibilities which are waiting for you.

Be aware and prepared.

When your eyes are open, you should be ready for anything.

Challenge every minute,
for there is always something to be learned.

Meditation can help you.

If pain, confusion, or sorrow should arise,
realize that even such problems can be helpful,
like friends talking to you and teasing you.

Remember that if you do not play,
you do not have any fun.

You can play with situations, and see their different aspects;
you can respond unexpectedly.

This is the way you can challenge each situation.

Just let your problems come and don’t care so much.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind

Just feel the energy…

The antidote to anger is love, compassion, and patience.

But until we know how to apply these,
we may instead try to force our anger down.

We may try this by keeping quiet, by walking, sleeping, reading books –
but none of these are antidotes to anger’s poison.

What we can do is concentrate on the anger,
not allowing any other thoughts to enter.

That means we sit with our angry thoughts,
focusing our concentration on the anger –
not on its object –
so that we make no discriminations, have no reactions.

Likewise, when anxiety or any other disturbing feeling arises,
keep the feeling concentrated.

It is important not to lose it.
But it is also important
not to think further about it or act on it.

Just feel the energy, nothing more.

Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Openness Mind