In passionately charged interdependent relationships,
we may sense the ‘I’s insecurity
as fear of rejection or abandonment,
and may express this fear in resentment, jealousy,
or angry attempts to reestablish control of the other’s attitude or activities.
Real panic may hide behind demands for attention
and profuse expressions of caring.
Insecurity and fears can spark cycles of rage,
verbal or physical violence, fear of loss, profound regrets,
until one partner or the other becomes exhausted.
Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
Knowledge of Freedom